I made my own glitter Mickey Ears. 

  
   So like most morning I started my day on YouTube and Pinterest looking at DIY’s. I just got a really cool job at the Disney Store and I’ve been really into Disney DIY. I came across this video on YouTube where this one vlogger was gluing sequins onto Mickey Mouse ears. 

   Later that day I had to go on an errand for my sister to pick up some Mickey Mouse decorations for my nephews first birthday. She sent me to party city with some money from my mom and an unfinished list. 

   My sister is a little indecisive at times so it left me wandering around in party city with only 10 minutes before closing. I was waiting on her to respond to my text weather to get one thing or another when I came across these ears. 

  
   They’re  Mickey Mouse ears for a kid, but I think they can fit my head too. After finding the ears it sent me on another scavenger hunt of my own looking for a substitute to sequence. I need it to be affordable cause I was using the leftover change that my mom said I could keep.

    I really don’t have money right now to just do DIY’s on the spur of the moment. But luckily after  asking some of the employees I found the perfect solution Large Confetti! I used Fabric glue that I keep at my house to repair torn Clothes. It was a relatively quick DIY. I might add a bow later I haven’t decided. Let me know what you think. 

#disneydiy 

#diymickeymouseears 

I’m thinking of consolidating my Facebook pages.

  
It’s been a long time since I started my Facebook page What My Hair Is Doing Today. It stated off as a photo album on my personal Facebook page. Then I decided it was getting to big for my page, and decided to commit to natural hair blogging. I went from not being able to get friends and family to like my page to strangers taking an interest. As of today I have 320 likes. It’s not much but at least it’s something. At least I know I’m not doing this just for myself.

    Recently I started this new blog because I wanted to talk about more then just hair, fashion,and beauty. You can see that clearly from my last post. I also started a Facebook page for the blog. Right now I only have 33 likes and I’m sure majority of them are my Facebook friends. That’s better then the last page start up right? So now I have a total of three Facebook page pulse my personal page. I haven’t been able to post new music to my music page cause I’m always busy with my two jobs. I want to change that. So I need to consolidate some things.

  
One thing that has always bugged me in the past was how long my hair Page name is. I always regretted not coming up with a short catchy name like a lot of bloggers was able to do. Then one day I realized I was changing and growing. I had a lot more I wanted to say.  Then suddenly the name hit me Chubbycurl. I feel like the name came to me when I needed it. When I was going through some changes and needed something to signify that.

Lately I’ve been thinking of making What My Hair Is Doing Today apart of Chubbycurl. They would be one and the same. I want to consolidate my hair and blogging page. So it would be What My Hair Is Doing Today presented by Chubbycurl. WMHIDT would be a segment on chubbycurl. I want to still talk about natural hair care, but I want to also present my audience with a wider range of content.

So here is where you all come in. A little while ago I made a post on WMHIDT asking how my subscribers would feel if I changed the name. I got no response, so this left me with more thinking and questions. If I change the name will anyone notice? Will it cause confusion or loss of subscribers? How will I get my Chubbycurl page subscribers to move over to the hair Page. I really want to know what you the subscribers think. So before I make any changes please let me know how you feel. If no one has anything to say I will be making changes at the first of the month.

What’s your flaw (unnecessary criticism, and how to deal.)

  
I’ve been thinking about some things for a couple of years. I’ve been going over in my mind all the times people have said unnecessary hurtful things to me. This is not healthy I know, but I hope that maybe I can use my elephant like memory and life lessons to help others going through it right now.  

    So for me I’ve always noticed when I’m doing well someone will disguise themselves as a friend and begin to overly criticize me. Now at the time I don’t know I’m doing well but I’m on my way to something big. I usually don’t see it till later which is the case for most people. What these people are trying to do is pull down my self esteem. I never think of the perfect comeback till later because it always takes me by surprise. I’m going to give you some examples of situations and how to shut them down and stave off further attacks. 

Example 1) unnecessary criticism

  
    Sometimes this scenario comes out of know where from someone you’ve known for a short time. You’ve grown comfortable with them so when they say somethings critical it takes you back. I remember when I was dancing with this one friend at church. I had done the choreography but I was not confident in it. I asked her opinion which was mistake number one. If you don’t know someone well enough don’t let them know when your feeling  vulnerable. 

   She responded “well the choreography is great it just doesn’t look good on you because your fat. Chubby women are not graceful and really shouldn’t dance.” She then proceeded to tell me “don’t worry no one will be looking at you. I’m light skinned so when we dance all eyes will be on me.”

    I should have said something then, but I really didn’t see that coming. I thought she would say you need cleaner lines, or your timing is off at this one point. What I should have said was what was the purpose of your critiques? 

    When someone says something totally unneeded and mean you can usually shame them by asking them what was the purpose?  Did you think what you just said would make me feel good? If not then why would you say something to hurt me? Did you really think this would help me grow? 

   If I had said this in the beginning I would not have had to deal with this same criticism for years from this person. She even said it to a teenager once which made me feel like I was failing at being a strong leader and roll model. 

  
    What I realized later on was that even though we were friends she had some jealousy issues. For years people would come to me and tell me she talks about me behind my back. She felt the need to criticise me because she wanted somethings I had in my life. At the time things she would say like that would send me into a depression. I would start over thinking everything I did around her because I thought she reflected what everyone thought about me. 

Example 2) Ask “Is there something wrong?”

     I once had a friend that was so critical of everything I did it became extremely exhausting to be around her. I once got physically sick from spending the day with her. I cut off that relationship because I felt at the time I needed to look out for my own well being.  Now when I look back on things I should have approached that situation differently.  

  
    The way I should handle things is if she gave criticism about me. Like about my wedding, marriage, or family life. Instead of disputing her claims and being drawn into a debate with no end.  I should have asked this simple question.  Are you ok?

    I knew she had a lot of problems in her life that may have been bothering here. Things that would make her reflect anger on me. When she criticized how she hated my wedding. I should have thought about how her wedding had been postponed and she had no ring to show for her engagement. 

   I could have asked are you upset because things in your life aren’t going to plan? She use to try to be really controlling and overbearing to everyone around her. We didn’t have problems till I started to nip that in the bud. What I realize now and what I’ve taken from that relationship is that people try to put you down and control you because things are going out of control in other parts of their life. These are things they can’t control so they try to find things and people they can control. 

    Pay close attention to your friends underlying problems.  Check in on them when they start to pick at and focus on your flaws. Make sure they are ok emotionally. They may not admit it but at least you tried to be there. 

Example 3) Maybe they just don’t realize they are being mean. 

  
   A lot of people say mean things and don’t even realize it. My dad does this a lot and it tends to make people mad at him. For instance me and my husband have been trying to have a baby for two years now. My dad knows this but he still tells my husband “when are y’all gonna have some kids? What’s wrong your swimmers not swimming?”

     It makes us sad when he says this because we really don’t know what the problem is yet. My dad thinks he’s being funny. But when you’re going through, its no laughing matter, so I tell my dad that. I let him know it makes us sad when he says things like that. He really doesn’t get it but at least it keeps him from making that joke for a while till he forgets. Then we tell him again. 

    Sometimes people don’t know when they are being overly critical and hurtful. If you don’t speak up and let them know they may never know. Like my dad they might think they are being funny. If you don’t say anything they can go around hurting others just like they hurt you. 

Example 4) Show me the proof

  

    Recently I read about how some people were criticizing pastor T. D. Jakes. Some people didn’t like him wearing ripped jeans at a church he was visiting. On person even commented on his Instagram photo saying he needed to set a better example for his flock. 

Jakes ask the commenter “scripture please?” 

“I certainly want to comply with the word,” Jakes continued. “I just missed the one about jeans in the pulpit.” 

     I had the same situation with my church dance team a while back. I wanted to dance to Out of Eden my favorite Christian contemporary group. Two other members of the team felt that it was inappropriate to dance to Christian R&B/hip hop. Everytime I would bring up dancing to a Out of Eden song or a cross movement song I was told that’s not kingdom music. That’s not praise and worship music. That music does not have the anointing of the holy spirt. So I would just back down. 

    I had a Vision with these songs. I wanted to use them to reach younger kids in the church. I should have had confidence in my own knowledge. Instead of backing down I should have asked where is the scriptures? Where in the bible does it say only one type of Christian music is holy? I should have told them about the story I was trying to tell, and the verses I had to go with it. 

    I should have never backed down. Sometimes people just criticize you with out proof. If you stand up for yourself and ask them to show you the proof they can back down. They just want to criticize for the sake of criticizing. 

  

  
    Everyone has flaws no one is perfect. What’s the point in honing in on someone else’s flaws and pointing them out constantly. Instead of focusing on everyone else focus on yourself. Focus on your flaws and making yourself better. 
   

  
    This is the way I see it. The world is a hard place why should we make it worse by tearing each other down. Especially Christians if we tear each other down there will be no one standing with you on the battlefield. Or worse broken weak people all around you that you help build. Is that the world you want to live in? 

New year new post ideas. 

  
It’s a new year and I haven’t posted anything in a while. Don’t get me wrong I have tones of new blog ideas. I just don’t know which one to post yet. I really want this blog to truly show you into the life and mind of a Chubby Curly Girl. I don’t want to just talk about fashion and hair. That’s not what this blogs sole purpose is. I’ve been thinking of doing blogs about things I’ve experienced in life to help others down the line avoid my mistakes. Some of the topics I’ve been playing around with are as follows.

 Dealing with Depression as a Christian. 

Staying true to yourself 

Dealing with people picking at your flaws

Infertility 

How to spot a problematic friendship.  

How not to get into a bad situation.AKA ( Don’t let the users use you up.) 

Why I created What My Hair is Doing Today. 

I’ve started all theses blogs but I really need to set some time to focus on each individual one and finish them. Until then tell me which blog you’re interested in reading about first. 

Why I started #SayitwithyourdressSunday ( it’s not a vanity thing it’s a movement)

  

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    As a Christian and a human being I know sometime beauty and fashion blogging can be a turn off to most. When things involve the aspect of focusing on the appearance people tend to think it’s shallow, vain. I understand that completely. You don’t want to get caught up associating your self worth with your appearance. We all need to love who we are inside and out.

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    Some of us have different ways of expressing ourselves outwardly. I like to let who I am on the inside shine thorough in my fashion choices. I’m a very creative person that believes in the word of God. I believe you should dress modestly but with your own funky flavor. 

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    I don’t dress the way I do to gain attention. I just want to be comfortable in my own skin. I don’t want men to lust at me, so I’m always trying to find on trend modest clothes. However I don’t want to forgo my fashion sense in the process. 

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    A lot of people believe if you’re going to church you have to dress a certain way. I’ve seen older saints chastised my self and others for not dressing to their liking. I’ve seen people not come to church because the did not feel they had nice enough clothes. I’ve even skipped church on many occasions because I new if I dressed how I wanted I would be subjected to ridicule. I just want to be me. If there’s no skin showing. If it’s not to short or tight what business is it of yours what styles I prefer.

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    In 1 Samuel 16:7 it is explained that sometime we can judge people based on their outward appearance and not take the time to look within. I remember this Christian rapper The Ambassador came out with a song called My clothes my hair that was along the same topic lines. 

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You really don’t know what’s in someone’s heart, so you shouldn’t judge them on what you like or don’t like about their look. I’ve known some people that dress fancy and come to every church event. They are there all week long, but they are the ugliest acting people you can meet.  They’ll get the Holy Ghost singing in the church choir but snub folks in the halls. 

  
If you judged them on they’re style and regular attendance you would think that they have it all together but the message is missing them all the time. You really need to take the time to talk to people to have a full understanding of what’s going on inside.  
I created #sayitwithyourdressSundays to show that Christian women can dress modest but trendy with no judgement. That fashion sense in the church can change without fear from the side eye from the church mothers. It’s my creative way to show how your style can reflect the believer within.

  

Why colds can be scary for singers. 

  
   If you know me personally (which lets face it you don’t) you know that I get a lot of colds. Like a lot. It all started when I started dating my husband. He gets colds a lot too. I think it’s because he’s always chewing his nails. I’ve seen him on more the one occasion hold on to a railing bar on a public train then  immediately put his hands in his mouth. He always laughs at me when I yell that “everyone in Chicago has touched that! Do you know how many germs you are putting in your mouth!”  Then there’s the fact that he finishes his friends food if they don’t want the rest. I would never put anything that was near, in, or around someone else’s mouth in mine.( with the exception of kissing my husband)  I guess I’m a Germafobe cause there are times I’m positive he is always sick and getting me sick because of these bad habits. 

As a singer getting sick often forms a bit of aproblems for me. I miss prepaid voice lessons, life changing auditions, and scheduled singing engagement don’t go as well as I would like. My lack of upper register from flem limits me vocally at times. 

It’s also scary. I sometimes find myself wondering if this is it. Is this going to be the cold that kills my voice for good?

 I pray to God often “please please let my voice recover from this bad cold/cough.”

 I take all types of cold medicine and home remedies yet a month later he gets a cold and then I get it.  

There has been a lot of times I cough so much and so hard blood comes up. This is very frightening. When you cough it’s like slamming you vocal chords together very hard. It can cause a lot of bad friction that can create damage. I also often worry about getting polyps on my vocal cord. I don’t even think I have the money to get that fixed. 

Especially the times when we don’t have Heath insurance which happens often cause of my hubby leaving jobs he does not like, and mistakes the affordable care makes.  Every time I get really sick and go to the hospital our insurance gets accidentally cancelled.👀 They ( affordableCare)  never tell us it’s cancelled we just always find out when we get a bill from the hospital saying our insurance did not go through. Then we go through the motions of showing we paid our bill them reinstating us but I still need to pay my hospital bill my self. 

  
As a singer with uncertain healthcare I worry constantly. When I can’t sing I slip into depression. So if my voice goes away forever I really don’t know what will happen to me. It’s who I am. 

#SayitwithyourdressSunday

  
Last Sunday’s #SayitwithyourdressSunday featured a skirt I purchased at Rainbow for $17.97. 

  
It’s a Striped Wide-Pleated Scuba Skirt with High-Low Hemline. The material feels soft like styrofoam, and it makes it puff out like it has a extra support underneath. 

  
I pared it with some short boots I purchased at the defunct Dots clothing store a couple Christmases back.  

 
I wore a plain black turtleneck I got from Target 2 years ago with a silver statement necklace, and silver leopard circle earrings I recieved from two church buddies of mine. 

  
Now let’s focus on my hair. My curls were originally achieved with a wash N go. After that got old I decided to go with the tried and true three strand twist-out. I decided to bun the front of my hair because my hair is a different texture in the front. The curls were not as prominent. 

  
Now if the top of my hair seems blue no that’s not a camera malfunction. I tried to spray it Blue with Jerome Russell Bwild hair color spray.  It did not work the way I planned but you can see it in bright light. 

As always I like to bend the rules a little when it comes to my Sunday Service style. Even though it’s not always recieved well I’ve been experimenting with my hair color. Pairing it with different outfits so it doesn’t seem out of place. So I’m thinking conservative punk. 

I know they don’t really go well together. We will see how this experiment goes. 

Taken for granted 

  
   I hate being taken for granted. I know this is a problem everyone deals with. I try not to take others for granted because I know how it feels, but it’s almost impossible for people not to get lost in the shuffle. 

  Life is hard. While we are all trying to survive we lose touch with friends, and family. They can’t help but feel unloved and unappreciated. 

  I feel like that a lot with my friends. I have friends at church that only talk to me at church. If I miss a few Sunday’s they don’t call or Facebook. A long time ago after a bad break up I stopped going to church for 6 months. None of my church friends called me once. I was heartbroken and I felt so alone. I realized out of sight out of mind is a real thing that can happen to a lot of friendships. 

  But what if your friends not doing well? What if they’re not ok? As someone who suffers from depression I can tell you that there have been more times then I can count that I was really low and close to the edge. No one called no one really wants to know how you really are doing. All these feelings are to messy for most people to handle. So they just fall back. 

Maybe sometimes we should just step out of our comfort zone get dirty and check on our people. Sure It makes us uncomfortable, but in the end we might help someone. 

I’m getting forgetful (New hair products review)

  
So awhile back I did a video of all the products I received at a recent Natural hair gathering. So what you don’t know is that I forgot about some of the products I received. One product in particular Creme of Nature’s straight from Eden natural oil infused shampoo and conditioner. 

   
   It wasn’t until I went a another Creme of Nature event that Rachel O. was hosting at a Sally’s that my memory was jogged. It didn’t happen immediately. In fact I didn’t realize it till the car ride home. Everyone kept asking me had I tried any other cream of nature products.  I kept saying a little bit but I’m not using them right now and I’ve only used the redline with Argan oil. One of the people attending the event in particular said I really like the green line that I got at the natural hair meet up recently. Still didn’t remember I had two sets of it in my house, and I told her I hadn’t tried that yet.  I never heard of it. But I have heard of it and it was in my house. 

   So once I realize that it was at my house on the car ride home.  I decided the next day I would wash my hair with it since  I needed a good wash anyway. I also got a really big bag of samples from the cream of nature spokes person that was at the recent event at Sally’s. 

   
   

 

The sample products I received are the Butter-Licoous Curls, Pure-Licious Co-Wash, and Twirling Custard. I also go a free hair comb, & t-shirt.  

So what I want to say right now is after using shampoo and conditioner only wants it really did a good job of removing all the buildup in my hair.  my hair seem to have more stretch. Check out some of the pictures below. 

  
  
After I was done cleansing my hair I decided to take a chance and tried to do a wash N go. Usually when I try to do wash n go’s they don’t turn out so great, but after I wash my hair with the creme of nature products it worked pretty well. I got a full two days out of the style and I really enjoyed it. I will probably try again sometime down the line. 

  
After going to the Creme of Nature #courageousbeauty event for Brest cancer. I started thinking about my little cousin Brianna Who lost her mother to breast cancer a year ago. I decided to give her some of my products. She’s away at college all alone for the first time and she’s natural. Her mother told her always keep your hair natural so I want to help out with that. 

 I’ll keep you posted on how the products work on my hair so far. 

Stay Blessed ✌🏿❤️

I need a vacation!

  

        It’s been a while. Working two jobs is no joke. I find myself becoming really emotional and depressed lately.  One of the only things that cheers me up other then reading the Bible is day dreaming about going on a family Disney cruise. Yep that’s right I’m obsessed with Disney cruise line. It all started when my sister, a journalist was able to bring our family for free on the christening of the Disney Dream. They pulled out all the stops. They had Jennifer Hudson singing. A hour long show of song and dance with every Disney character ever. Caviar and Champagne was passed out. They really pampered us and that was before we got on the ship. I had never been on a cruise but my parents had. We all agreed it was one of the most elegant places we had ever been to.

  
     After that experience I was hooked and determined if Jon and I ever got married I wanted our honeymoon to be on the Dream. I got my wish and Jon loved it as much as I did. When it came time to disembark we didn’t want to go. We started asking do y’all need another DJ and singer/dancer? I felt like I was at home on the Dream. It was that comfortable. I wish we had more money so we could go on a seven night cruise.

  
One of the things I noticed on our first Disney cruise was that my whole family got along better than any vacation we had ever had. There was only one thing missing. The whole family wasn’t there. My sister’s husband didn’t want to go which made the family outing just the original family. I wish he could’ve come it might have been a bonding. Also my boyfriend at the time Jon couldn’t come because we only had one room and my parents wasn’t having that. The biggest surprise was my sister announcing she was pregnant with my niece. 

  
Now I’m married and I have a niece and nephew. When I daydream I think of their reactions to all the sights on the ship.  When I daydream I think of my brother-in-law loosening up and really enjoying himself, and becoming more of a care free person. I see my parents sitting back and enjoying their family. I see Disney magic working to make the best family vacation ever. Time is not on our side. My parents are getting older and sickly. I worry I won’t get my dream of a whole family vacation.

  
I used to daydream going with my dad’s side of the family. I knew my cousin Michael love Disney. I use to research hotel and ship accommodations for wheelchair accessibility. Then one day I got a call that my cousin Michael passed away. I remember the last time I talked to him I wanted to tell him about my huge family Disney cruise adventure plane, but I chickened out. I didn’t want him to think I was weird. 

   
I don’t want another situation like that to happen with my immediate family. So I keep planing,saving, day dreaming, and trying to convince them that this vacation would not be somethings we will regret. Hopefully one day soon I can convince everyone to come on board. Until then I just like imagining our possible fun to get me through the long hard work days.