Hello world!

  This is my very first post on word press.  I’ve been using blogger to blog about natural hair and my personal hair journey. I go by What My hair is doing today there. I decided I wanted to kick it up a notch. I want to blog about more then just hair. There are a lot of levels to me. I have a lot of talents, and I would like to showcase them here on ChubbyCurl. Some of the things I will blog about besides natural hair is music, crafting, life issues, religion, just life from my point of view. I hope you enjoy what I have In store.  

  Stay blessed. 

Why some people see natural hair as childish

Whenever I have a conversation with one of my friends that has relaxed hair they often bring up the fact that they like my hair. However one draw back for them going natural is the fact that they believe that natural hair is not for adult occasions. Some style are perceive as childish. I can understand from hearing their point of view how they have come to that belief. If you really think about it some of the styles us adult naturals wear are close in similarity to the styles we wore as kids. Take today for instance. I’m rockin chunky three-strand twist. I normally wouldn’t wear my hair in such large twist in public, but I’m trying to achieve a good twist- out for Mother’s Day. As I looked in the mirror before I left work I felt like I looked like my adolescent self. All I had to do was add some barrettes and I was six again. When you are 33 you want people to take you seriously. Sadly in today’s world some people will still see your natural hair as immature. 

What a lot of people don’t realize is that natural hair is very versatile. I have three Pinterest boards dedicated to natural hair styles. One of them has 1,317 pins of ways to style natural hair. However to some it all looks the same. So people believe that natural hair can not come off polished, and sometimes I have to agree with them. I’ve planned pinned and pasted my hair with gels and pomades and my hair still will be a frizzy mess at the end of the day. To an outsider this can be less ideal. Most of us veteran naturals just roll with the punches. 

What’s a product junkie to do?

      Lately I’ve been trying to use less products and create a better hair regime. In the past I would get so caught up in the next best new product that I would switch up products every few months. It always happened the Same way. Super popular hair blogger does review of a product. Talks about it like its the holy grail, and I have to go out and get me some. Never mind what I was using even if it was working. I was convinced that this next new best thing would surpass that. We all know I’m hard headed so it took a while to realize all this product hopping was damaging my hair. I still revert back to my old ways from time to time. But I’ve been trying to stay away from product reviews to resist the urge.

      Theirs just one problem. What if I walk into target and see a lot of new natural hair products. Am I strong enough to walk on by. It’s been a heard  couple months for me. I’ve been finishing up all my old products to make room for one new one. Once I find that one  system that works for me I need to commit. I don’t know why it’s so hard for me, but when some of my favorite lines like Shea Moisture comes out with a new product I can’t resist. 

     One of the side effects I’ve noticed that occurs when I switch things up to much is dandruff. My scalp uses this way to say I don’t like that. Everything gets real itchy and sometimes I get bumps around my edges. At first I thought I was styling my hair to tight. But even in a loose bun or fro I have this problem.

 So I need to just find what works and never stray. In the next couple of weeks I’m going to try some new Shea moisture products. I already know which ones of the older lines I seem to be allergic to. So I’m going to give some of their more recent lines a try. I already like a lot of the Jamaican black castor oil line so I’m half way there. If your having the same problem as I am you can try commiting to trying less lines and finding that one that works and sticking with it. 

It’s a lot to become a recovered product junkie. But when the end result is healthy hair it’s worth it. 

Why I never went to cosmetology school.

Today I was scrolling through facebook like any other day.  I came across a article about being a natural haired model during fashion week. 
In the article it was brought up how most stylist have no knowledge of Afro textured hair. It reminded me of one of the reasons why I never went to cosmetology school.
    Back in the day when I was in high school I was always interested in hair. I hated perms and I wanted to explore how to style my hair with out straightening it. I would wear breads most of the time but when my hair was out I was always trying to put it in different styles. I bought books and DVDS on how to twist and braid hair. And I was always at the store getting braids magazines.
 Fast forward to college after a few semesters I went natural for the 3rd time and I started styling my own hair. It wasn’t long before friends and family started asking me to style their hair. I soon realized that I had a special talent. I can look at pictures of hair styles and duplicate them. I was also able too come up with my own style creations. So dispite my parents disapproval I started researching cosmetology schools. 
When I thought of learning about hair I thought I would learn about every hair type. Unfortunately to my dismay when ever I inquired about learning to care for Afro textured hair while touring schools I was told that is not taught. One of the things that frustrated me the most is I would come into these schools and see a majority of African American women. The instructors and directors would be African American. Yet no one had a desire to learn how to do natural hair.  They learn how to perm, cut, wash, and dye hair but not how to care for it in its natural state. They had no knowledge of what products work best on african American hair especially in its natural state. In a nutshell all the curriculum was based off of a European hair standard.  
I put my school hunt on hold, but continued to wash and style many of my friends hair. It wasn’t until my best friend had reneged on paying me for the third time that I decided to take up my search again to find a all incompasing hair school. The way my friend explained it was why should I have to pay you for doing my hair you’re not a licensed stylist. Even though she hurt my feelings by stating that it was the kick in the pants I needed to get a certificate. So I started my research again to find a school that taught the study of all hair types. 

The way I saw it if I am not taught in cearing for natural hair I shouldn’t be making  a living on it certificate or no. I could be stunting someone’s hair health because I’m not completely knowledgeable in its care. This is also a reason why I don’t trust most hair stylist. 
When ever I go to a stylist they don’t even have a basic knowledge of how my hair functions. They always want to straighten my hair to braid it or do a simple twist-out. I’m always told these styles can not be achieved with out the hair being straight. Then I inform them I do this to my hair every week in its natural state, and they act as if I’m lying. If they were taught about natural hair they would know its capabilities. 

So I did a little digging. I decided to go to one of the more prominent cosmetology school to get my hair dyed, and ask the students question.  When I fist entered the facility I could see I made everyone nervous. I explained that I wanted my hair dyed and everyone kept assuming that I wanted a perm. They left me sitting for quite some time as they all talked and tried to determine what to do. More then four students came to me at different times to ask me if I wanted a perm. This happened so much I became paranoid that some one might try to give me a light perm or a texturizer without my knowledge. When a stylist finally started on my head I had to talk her through the process a little. I had to explain that if you comb my hair start at the ends and work your way up to the root. It’s easier to comb when wet or with some product in it. I had to explain that since my hair is very dense ( AKA Thick ) she may have to use more dye or leave it in longer under the dryer. The back of my hair takes a lot longer to dye so it always looks darker than the front. 

All of this took a lot of proding on my part because she kept falling back on her training and combing wrong and hurting me while yanking out hair. She didn’t even know how to twit and when I showed her she was amazed it stayed with out a hair tye or added extensions. All of this should have been covered in her instructions which she was almost finished with. 

After that little field trip. I decided to go to a natural hair meet up where I knew a popular natural hair stylist was speaking. I wanted to ask her where she went to school so I could go there. I was convinced there must be a school that teaches about natural hair that I must not have Heard of. After the demonstration I approached the stylist to ask her where she got her cosmetology license. After she told me I asked did they instruct her on how to do natural hair? She said no of course, so then I asked where can I learn how to care for natural hair? She told me that there is no cosmetology school that teachers about natural african American hair. She explained to me that she went to cosmetology school and learned how to care for hair but not for Afro textured hair. She told me when It comes to natural hair she was self taught from other naturals and being natural herself. She has a salon that specializes in natural hair but she has no certification in natural hair. I told here I wanted to go to cosmetology school but I wanted to specialize in Natural hair. What she told me to do was get certified then learn all I can about natural hair from on line, and word of mouth. That way I could do hair professionaly because I have certification and then specialize in natural hair on my own. 

This news really frustrated me. It angered me that african Americans natural hair texture is ignored by the schools. I pretty much got discouraged and gave up doing others hair all together. I know some changes will have to come. The natural hair community is growing. Stylist will have to expand their knowledge to stay in business. When the curriculum changes I’m sure there will be a lot of stylist interested in learning how to care for natural hair. To often when I do go to get my hair done I feel as if the stylist is embarrassed she does not know what to do with my hair. I imagine she feels unprepared. If you truly love hair you would naturally want to be able  to grow and care for all types. You would want to have all the knowledge that you can about your field. 

Well that’s my story. 


My personal problems with crochet braids.

1.) People are always trying to say that my natural hair is weaved because its long and thick. Even when I did get my hair permed people always insinuate it wasn’t mine. so when I do wear weave I feel like it is going to basically confirm that for them. I often feel like people are trying to expose me for a liar. So many African Americans hold the belief that black women cannot grow long hair. When they do see someone with long thick hair they automatically believe this person just has a great weave. I worry sometimes that when I wear weave people are going to just assume my hair is always fake. 
2.) It makes me not like my hair texture sometimes. Okay so the hair texture I have in right now is curly, but it’s a looser curls than my curl. It’s very manageable unlike my hair. I’m getting used to not having to style my hair or having to go through a lot to style it. I’m a little bit unwilling to go back to my hair texture at times. Don’t get me wrong I love my hair. My hair can do a lot of things that most people hair can’t do and its really awesome. But sometimes I want to be able to style it really quickly and go out the door. This hair type that I have crocheted into my hair reminds me of that. It makes me not want to go back. This in turn makes me feel extremely ashamed. I feel like I’m going through a process of self hatred towards my hair texture sometimes. I feel a little confused about the whole situation. 
3.) It makes me feel self-conscious when people like my weave better than my actual hair. The first time I wore crochet braids I went to work and everybody was like “oh your hair is so beautiful! its so awesome! that’s how you should wear your hair from now on.” A lot of people told me they preferred my hair this way. A lot of people complemented The hair that was of a straighter texture than mine and they never say boo about any of my natural hairstyles. I got 1 billion more likes on Facebook and Instagram then I do with my actual natural hair. I got to say I’m not perfect it made me feel very self-conscious bout my natural hair. When I took the crochet braids out I didn’t feel the same way I did about my hair as I did before I put them in. I again felt Shame because I was letting the European standard of beauty break me down and make me not feel that my beauty was beautiful. It brought up a lot of the old emotional struggles that I went through when I was transitioning. I Have to constantly assure myself that my hair is beautiful the way that it grows out of my head. I felt like I was starting over again. 
4.) I don’t like styling my hair with boiling hot water. I don’t want to burn my face off. I really don’t want to burn my face-off!!! While styling my hair with the rollers in the boiling hot water I came very close to burning my face!!! The second time around I tried putting the hair around the rollers in the hot water before I added it to my head. This worked until the curls all fell out and I had to do it all over again with the hair in my head. I think I might have third-degree burns on my shoulders and ear. While I was doing this I was thinking “are you crazy you’re putting boiling hot water near your face!” Having pretty hair is not worth boiling your face off. 
5.) Finding the right type of hair thats manageable where I live is almost impossible. I cannot find a soft realistic looking Marley hair to save my life. The first two times I did crochet braids was with this really itchy Marley hair that I could barely style. I went to three different beauty supplies looking for a nice type of hair to do crochet braids with. The first Beauty supply I went to there was a gentleman working there who told me this is the only type of hair you can find in Chicago. I figured he was lying to get me to buy the hair that I was looking at that day. So I went to the other beauty supply five minutes in the other direction to prove him wrong the next day. Guess what? the same guy was working at the other beauty supply. He was like I saw you yesterday? You thought you could find the different hair texture at a different shop? I own both stores.  Well all we have is the same type of hair you saw you at the other shop like I told you yesterday. I gave in and bought the hair out of sheer embarrassment. So then the second time around I thought I would go to the beauty supply directly across the street from my house that just opened. Guess who was there… So there are 3 beauty supplies within five minutes of each other close to my house. You guessed it I live in the hood. I scoured YouTube looking for the type of hair that I should get that was more manageable. I looked up all the people that I saw with crochet braids on Pinterest and checked their website to find out what type of hair they used. I came up with four different types of hair that I was in pursuit of. Vivid 
Otre batik bohemian wave, Bohemian curl hair, Cuban twist, and

Freetress Water wave. I got word from a friend that Cuban twist hair was being sold in Indiana. I wasn’t about to go that far away just for some hair. I Felt like if I did it will be an all time low for me. So I went to a Beauty supply in a near by suburb that I used to go to in high school. The sales women had natural hair which immediately put me in a state of relief and comfort. I rattled off the types of hair that I was looking for and she immediately said you’re trying to do crochet braids aren’t you? She knew exactly what types of hair I was looking for. I was able to find the free tress water wave which is the hair that I am currently wearing. I was also able to find a hair that was kind of like cuban twist. I’m going to return and purchase that to make a natural hair crochet wig for my sister. But at the end of the day after all that searching for hair I felt like “what is happening with my life?” I felt like I wasted way too much time, money, and gas searching for something as stupid as weave. I need to get my life back from this hair detour I’ve been on. All I wanted to do is have a long sustaining protective style. I’m just going to enjoy this style for a month and then I’m probably going to take a break from crochet braids for a while. They’re beautiful, but extremely time-consuming in the pursuit of the right hair and installation. Just because someone’s YouTube video made installation look easy doesn’t mean that it is. It’s called video editing. The struggle is real and I’m totally over it right now. 

My Top 10 YouTubers of 2013

My top 10 youtubers of 2013
This is my personal top ten list of the You Tubers that have influenced me in 2013. I’m an avid You Tube watcher and I will admit that I can lose an hour of my day catching up with my favorite channels.  So I decided to create this list of my top ten. This list is of the people that have influenced me one way or another this year. It was very hard for me to pick just ten so I’ve added an honorable mention list towards the end. When I start posting my own videos again this year I hope I will be able to make as strong an impression as theses talented ladies.   
10. FusionofCultures:  I stumbled upon this fabulous natural hair vlogger  two years ago when I was trying to find tutorials on better natural styles. I had been natural for a while and the only styles I had mastered were two strand twists, flat twist, Afro puffs, and my awesome Fro-Hawk. A friend of mine that favored relaxed hair made a statement that natural hair was not styleable,  could not look professional in the work place, and was a juvenile hair choice that looked silly on the over 30 set. I decided I was going to prove her wrong, and in my search for fresh new styles I stumbled upon Laila Jean’s channel and creative hair tutorial. I think she taught me my second pinup protective style and helped me realize natural hair is more versatile then most people know.  Check out one of her latest pinup styles here

9. Andrea Lewis: Ok so I use to watch degrassi the next generation the secrets out. I know I was an adult when the show aired, but in my defense I use to watch the original Degrassi when I was a kid and they reeled me in with the whole baby Emma going to Junior high now. When I watched the show I really liked Andreas character Hazel. I liked her so much when they phased her character out I made a point to keep up with her on line. I first found here on youtube when she was doing Those Girls Are Wild with her friend Shannon. I always enjoyed watching her music and there fun video’s.   Since then they have separated and Andrea has gone on to accomplish her dream of creating, producing, and staring in her own youtube show Black Actress. On her personal channel she gives a lot of advice with her Self Love Saturday videos.  She’s really inspiring and positive person to watch.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHr1QkzuriQ&feature=share

8. AndreasChoice: This girl is just loads of fun. I love her videos because the editing is phenomenal. She’s really creative with DIY’s, hair, and makeup. Her energy is really happy and positive. I tend to float towards people that are positive and upbeat so I also do that when watching You Tube. I always feel like if I watch one of her videos at the beginning of the day I’m more upbeat and energized. The first video I watched of Andrea’s was how to lighten your hair with honey. I was searching online trying to find a natural way to dye my hair. Andrea has African American in her heritage so I figured this could work for me too. Check out the video here. http://youtu.be/ddY6mHt0Lzo

7. My Natural Sistas: These sisters are real life sisters that truly know what they are doing. I first came across their channel because of the wedding video of India & Lillo. They made me throw out any ideas I had for my wedding and model my wedding ideas after there’s. It was just so beautiful I couldn’t help it. The sisters have a wide range of videos on natural hair for long, medium, short, and color treated. They have health and nutrition videos and one of the sisters Carmen is a Certified Personal Trainer! If you are in the Huston Texas area you should check her out. I would but I’m stuck here in Chi-raq so hopefully I will lose weight dodging bullets… I kid, I kid.  Check out this awesome smoothie video here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNJSIGWgAgk&feature=share&list=PL7cKSUvItjmxvkRmopw_5QQgOErWXz4kX

6. Communitychannel: Natalie Tran is one of the funniest people I have every come across in my entire 32 years of life. I’m just going to let her videos speak for themselves. http://youtu.be/zRyf23boUO4

5. Shameless Maya: She has the confidence I wish I had. I know it’s in me. Maya wasn’t always shameless too she had to push herself out there. For a year Maya made herself push beyond her fears and came out the other end a stronger person she’s a real inspiration.  I first heard about Shameless Maya through Andrea Lewis channel. They were doing the shameless promotion segment and asked others to shameless promote what they do and their video would be featured on those girls are wild channel.  Maya’s videos have some of the best editing I’ve ever seen on You Tube. Good editing is a must for me to watch most You Tube videos and often a deal breaker. Maya covers every topic you could think of. I got to meet up with her in the Chi before work. She’s Just a warm kind person to be in the presence of. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YXweKDgxwXE&feature=share&list=UUKMqrQHftdwuLPkK1nveVfw&index=2

4. Toyaboo: The first time I watched a Toyaboo video she made me cry. I became a fan from then on. She was talking about her struggles with hair and her natural hair Journey and she was just so honest and real that I had to keep up with her and her growth. Today she is a confident and happy actress that just moved to L.A. to further pursue her acting. She uses to reside in Chicago where I’m from and we use to work right across the street from each other. I never formally introduced myself to her, even though we passed each other on the street a bunch of times. I always punked out. Once I sent her a message asking her to do my makeup for my wedding, but she had another engagement out of town. I think really highly of her and I always felt that if we met we would be friends.  I think her genuine honesty is what keeps me watching all of her You Tube channels about hair, fitness, and life. http://youtu.be/IR70oe5-uFo

3. Issa Rae: everyone knows about all the accomplishments Issa Rae has made in a short period of time. I first became a fan of the series the misadventures of awkward black girl. Since then she has brought us a multitude of exceptional black programming to You Tube. What Issa is doing is very important. Regular TV was lacking programming that showed African Americans as we are complex human. We are just like everyone else with the same problems. She’s making more opportunities and opening more doors for Black people. Plus her shows are relatable to anybody from any background.   http://youtu.be/kmFHRgl2pek
 

2. Naptural85 aka DearNaptural85 aka StyleByNap85: Ya’ll know I love me some Miss Whitney. Nobody better say anything bad about Miss Whitney or I might have a fit. That’s my girl for real. I love everything she does from hair style tutorials, Lifestyle blogs, cooking for her adorable family and most recently DIY’s. Her daughter Olivia is so cute. A lot of things she’s done for her daughter I’ve passed on to my sister.  My sister does not have time to watch her videos and she says they are way too long but seeing as she has 367,759 viewers on her Naptural85 channel alone I don’t think too many people are complaining.   http://youtu.be/xWlnrc2cDno

1. Talia Joy Castellano: Talia was sent by God to bring awareness to childhood cancer. She was wise beyond her years and very special. It hurt me so much when she started to transition into the next life and passed away on July 16th this year. She was very strong and positive despite what she was going through. She was always smiling and making goofy faces. Whenever I felt like I was having the worst day I would see one of her videos and she would be smiling it up. She was going through a lot of pain and sickness, depression and loss. Loss of a normal childhood outside of a hospital bed, and loss of her other friends she had met suffering from the same illness. Talia shined like a light despite her problems and her smile would make all your sadness melts away. I’m really going to miss her, but I know she’s an angle watching over us in heaven and I will see her again. Here is the first video of Talia’s that I ever watched. I clicked on it because I wanted to know why that little kid had a bald head. I knew about childhood cancer but it was something about that pic that drew to me. http://youtu.be/rZ5-vxzx3dY

Honorable Mention List

1.)    Chloe and Halle http://youtu.be/uPwuduhx0vw

3.)    MOAMNETWORK  http://youtu.be/qAANuWIE2_k

4.)    Whoissugar http://youtu.be/oPTxknqoIDY

5.)    Tracee Ellis Ross http://youtu.be/xBnLrzdd6Nk